Wednesday, June 20, 2007

如斯父親的如斯體會

(尤其)多謝危樓姐姐同埋Karen妹的祝福和提醒,原來今個父親節,乃小CM第一次做主角。查實自己完全醒唔起。

最近看報紙,說有九成幾以上男士都覺得自己不是理想父親。以為人父的CM,則雖然知道自己不夠很理想,但偏偏輕狂地認為自己有如斯能力作一個理想父親。原諒我有如斯體會。

既然知道不夠理想,便努力爭取達至理想,至少,希望人認同自己有這個努力。哈哈,自欺欺人這樣對人說,查實自己還遠遠不夠被稱上努力。

剛剛一個短假期,一家三口去了一個離開小島不遠的地方,有山有水。總之遠離煩囂,務必要三個人於一室之內作困獸鬥。

這個不孝的父親,便趁小女還未能分辨她父親的不理想時,盡情利用這個父親節。可憐 Dada 被逼要服侍這個不理想老豆:陪老豆游水!

因為小妹沒有帶來泳衣,惟有在岸上默默地祝福我和小女倆歡聚的時刻。Dada 被安放在一個有“座位”的雙層水泡,由其父帶她接受首次海水的洗禮。

估計小女長大後,應該沒有那麼多機會與老豆遊山玩水,所以為父全力爭取這個寶貴時刻。

近日看到不少 Blogger 寫下一些令自己很有興趣研究的題目,雖然無暇即時回覆,但都暫時 bookmark 著,待將來研究 Managing Expectation 時可以獲得不少材料。有時我會戲稱這些材料做“看風駛舵”。

有時心怕自己亦會無意中向小妹和小女使用了一些職場“權術”,從而抵消,甚至扭轉自己在她們心目中的負面印象。但實情是,她們的負面印象是對的,我並不是一個理想父親。

研究看風駛舵是 CM 的興趣之一,取之於人用之於人是我的習慣,以退為進乃小弟的慣常伎倆。但,我不想用在摯愛身上。

她倆沒有察覺到,只是我,察覺到。或許她倆已經察覺到,但沒有揭穿我。

不管如何,我還是珍惜這個被坊間稱作父親節的節日,讓小女盡點孝心,陪陪這個不理想的父親。讓小女將來可以在同學仔面前高聲地說:“我都曾經為老豆慶祝過父親節呀!”

小女啊,你的面子,你要記住,是父親給你的。(站住!誰敢在小女面前踢爆我!)

(On 兄,對,昨晚回來了,累死,今天無心工作但又要趕貨,頭痛。對於你的推斷,碰巧小弟帶來了手信給你:一隻大拇指。隔天待續,請諒今日無神無氣。)

12 comments:

on dog said...

CM兄: 多謝你的手信!

你叉完電, AK兄又去叉叉佢, 幾時到小9呀!!!!!

近來真係DEAL到DEAL DEAL聲....太多DEAL啦!

on dog said...

"....用之於人是我的習慣,以退為進乃小弟的慣常伎倆。但,我不想用在摯愛身上。"


Feel great and glad to learn you are acting in this way.

s-pig said...

小朋友1-5歲係最可愛架,好好珍惜呀...祝你年年父親節都咁快樂!

bravo said...

Nice to read your blog after my exam today. You know, I've nearly forgotten yesterday was Dragon Boat Festival until I used googletalk to chat with my friend in Hong Kong. I read your message on CK's blog. That case was interesting, isn't it. 君臣佐使... Highly agree she belongs to the 使 type, probably a bit hard to manage her how to manage others. I think if Karen's, Kong Chan's and your ideas blend together then it would be perfect! =)

微豆 said...

I am glad to hear you treasure the time with your kid. Before you know it, she will be out of the door !!!

C.M. said...

On兄:

以為叉電,查實係去左放電,依家個人散曬,連日黎仲要睇醫生,食補品,得番半條行屍。

你份工high risk high return (+ high work hours)... 無法,做男人,係要搵命博。

多謝你。講到“術”,原以為係紙扎公司做,工作可以日日清,夜晚唔洗帶工作番屋企,但事實係,工作同日常生活,有時唔係咁容易分得開。要避免將職場面具用係家人身上,真係要好清醒至得。

s-pig:

多謝你呀,我會好比心機善用呢幾年。查實大家都經歷過1-5歲呢個可愛無比既階段,唔知我地d父母又當年同依家又會點睇我地呢?會唔會嫌我地煩,定係仲覺得我地細路仔呢?(忽發奇想)你都要孝順父母呀。

Bravo:

Have you read CK's blog today? To every outsider, this is a dilemma. Only CK himself can solve the problem. But the interesting part is, we can learn from this case and make calibrations.

Umm... blending ideas together is rarely a choice for me (even in other issues). In my experiece, one solution may solve lots of problems but blending solutions together would usually wreck havoc.

The joy of management comes from making the correct choice (and vice-versa).

微豆:

Welcome! I like your post on 五行! And perhaps you can even make more elaborations on it!

When she grows up, I would lock the door. :)

C.M. said...

Bravo:

And of course, different blends give different results. Blends are still possible.

學霖山莊 said...

遲來的父親節祝福...
祝 Dada 孝順父母
美貌與智慧並長...

祝 身体健康...

C.M. said...

學哥哥:

多謝多謝!那... 你呢?小弟突然有一種很硬sell的感覺跟你說:希望你也有幸像小弟一樣,有個趣緻寶寶為你慶祝父親節。 =P

也祝你和學太倆身體健康。

(最近方發現,原來小弟早於自己出第一篇post時已經拜訪過你)

on dog said...

貧者越貧...???

做咩買呢兩隻???

High risk, low gain;
Low risk, no gain;
No risk, ..... nothing! (Die already!)

C.M. said...

On兄:

一隻我揀既,一隻小妹既;
我揀個隻依家要喊三聲;(哈哈哈,仰天長嘯)
另一隻,小妹牛刀小試測試自己。(學費點都要交下,希望佢有運行啦)

(查實唔應該叫貧者越貧,應該叫貪字得個貧先啱... errr,你有冇心水啫...)

s-pig said...

CM哥哥,

>>你都要孝順父母呀。

多謝提點。我諗冇咩邊個為人子女,會認為自己做得夠架...不過,我一定會盡力!